GynocraticGrrl

fucknobigotry:

This is the post that inspired my rant. It was going to be just a little add on to reblogging this on my personal blog but then it got long, so I put it here :)

http://whoneedsfeminism.tumblr.com/post/22967647289/i-need-feminism-because

Its unfortunate how often these things are overlooked, and how many people laugh at us thinking that it isn’t a big deal. I used to think a little bit that way too, but the more I learned about sociology, the more I realized how much of a big deal it really is. It doesn’t mean that we can’t have beautiful women on TV, it just means that there has to be more that attracts the viewer to them than just their beauty or sexual nature. For example when attractive men are used, it is normally their looks, strength and intelligence which draw people to them. It is rarely (but not never) just their looks. This is a big problem and it has nothing to do with women being jealous. That’s just stupid but it seems to be the accepted opinion among ignorant men and women.

If you honestly see no value in a partner’s personality and you’d be totally okay with copulating with what is essentially an inanimate object then fine! Go get yourself a fuck-bot, just stay the hell away from real women because you don’t deserve them!

It’s true, objects are not impacted negatively, but objectifying real human beings is the problem here. If people could honestly make the distinction between these two things then there wouldn’t be a problem, but there is. Men will look at things like this and say “Man I wish my girlfriend/ wife / all women were more like that” You cannot expect an actual woman to be an object, it just won’t happen. Forcing her to be one will just damage her beyond your closed minded comprehension.

So I think we can determine that getting men hooked on the idea that they should seek objects of pleasure as their dream partners is damaging. (And this idea is taught, it is not natural! It would be insulting to say that men are naturally sexual monsters with no ability to be decent human beings! In fact, most men hate that stereotype and get mad at the feminists for it for some reason. It isn’t the feminists who portray it; it’s the objectification of women and encouragement of this behaviour that makes it a problem! So the feminists are actually fighting the problem!) It’s okay to find someone sexually attractive, but it isn’t okay to believe that that is all that there should be to them.

Men complain all the time about having their hearts broken by women who treat them like crap but they seem to have trouble accepting the fact that treating someone as nothing but an empty headed sexual object is essentially treating them like crap as well! They understand perfectly well what it is like to be hurt, they just pretend that they don’t and that’s why they laugh at us. It’s to deny that they can empathize with women way more easily than they let on! Whenever a guy complains about being “friendzoned” he always says that the girl is going out with some ass because he’s bigger, stronger, or whatever qualities men think that we find sexually attractive as our universal taste. The reality of those feelings is that men do not want to be seen as sexual objects either. They pretend that they want to, but they don’t. They hate it just as much as we do when women don’t see them for who they are. Or in the case of friendzoning, when they think that women are ignoring their personalities and that they are only attracted to men physically, when really most often the woman just doesn’t feel the same way as the man does, and she is not actually ignoring anything. They get so scary angry because that’s the only emotion they’ll let themselves show. When most women get rejected, they are allowed to let themselves show that they are sad which is why it is less common for women to respond with explosive rage when a guy just wants to be friends.   

That’s where I think all of the aggression comes from. I don’t think it’s because men are naturally more aggressive than women, I think that it’s because their whole range of emotions are trapped under a mask of anger. This would also prove that they are just as emotional as us too, and that they are affected by their emotions just as much as we are. They even understand their emotions just as much as we do. Contrary to popular belief, we are not superior to men in that domain. The fact is the genders are not universally superior to each other in anything, because it all depends on what roles we are given in society. Think of it this way, a trained doctor will be better than you at medical procedures because they were trained to do medical procedures. It’s that simple. It’s not that you lack the capabilities, you just lack the training. (If you are a trained doctor reading this, just think about some field that you aren’t trained in :P)

I also think that men are never actually trained out of feeling their emotions; they are just given only one option for expressing the same feelings. This is where they are deceived by their upbringings, because this is what dooms them to lives of failed communications. I think that they understand the emotions that we feel, they just don’t understand why we communicate it differently, and that’s why they call us complicated, and assume that we’re having different feelings all together. I don’t think that we are having different feelings at all, but this misconception is probably what makes men laugh at us for being “too emotional”. It’s almost pathetic what society encourages men to do with their emotions; because it’s pathetic to pretend that you have no problem with getting hurt. Nobody likes it, that’s why we invented the word “pain” to describe the unpleasant experience. It is an unpleasant experience so why should it be funny that we don’t like it? Is it that silly not to like what is unpleasant, even painful and dehumanizing? No, not at all! Men should not force each other to be ashamed of not liking pain, whether it is physical or emotional. It’s still pain and it still sucks!

I especially hate it when women encourage men to be this way. When I was in grade eleven English, my class was mostly girls. The teacher was female, and probably 90% of the students were female too. Somehow, the class ended up discussing what they thought that men should be. I was shocked and appalled. Even the teacher said that she didn’t want a crybaby for a man. The 3-4 guys in the room were silent and looking down, and all of these girls were saying things which they really didn’t mean. Like with the sexism that men express every day, they really didn’t understand the extent to which this stuff sinks into people and makes them feel like crap. So, I lifted up my hand, and the first thing I said was; “I’m sorry but men, cry. Real men, cry. Men have emotions just like us and they have every right to cry.” The rest of the girls went silent, and they looked like they were starting to feel bad about what they had said. I continued on saying something along the lines of “I love a man who isn’t afraid to cry! I love a man who has many different ways of expressing himself! I don’t need a strong muscular man, all I want is an intelligent, caring, person that I like to be with.” They all seemed to agree, so really their talk was all total bull shit that they copied and pasted from the media. They talked about it as though it was what they found important, but really it was almost like they were brainwashed by a fad of what they were told that they should find important, because in reality none of them cared about any of that shit. They just said that they did. I don’t remember the guys’ reactions to what I said because I’ve always been shy around guys so I was probably still at the age where I was avoiding looking in their general direction.

My main point here is that men understand the pain that women go through in a sexist unequal society a lot more than they think that they do. I hope that some men will read this and maybe see why sexism isn’t just a joke, and why they can also be freed by more equal and accurate representation of both genders in the media. I’d really like it if some men could respond to this post and tell me what they think. I want to know if I guessed right, because I think I’ve done a much better job thinking about it from a human standpoint, and not trying to separate how men vs. women would think. I just thought about what I would have thought if I were in the same social circumstance as a male. I made no effort to try to come up with some universal male thought pattern what so ever when I did this and so I want to hear from some men to know if this method has worked.

(TW: homophobic and misogynistic epithets)

Also, men, how many opportunities do you get to share your feelings!? Probably not many. Come at me bro! Share your feelings as freely as women get to do! You can do anon asks if you want, and it’s okay if you have to do it in several posts because of the character limit. I won’t be calling you guys fags or pussies or whatever else your friends might call you when you have genuine concerns about things besides fighting bears in the mountains.

Have a lovely afternoon, because I don’t even know why I always say that. I finish most of my posts late at night. (I think this is actually the first time I have made a post in the afternoon!)

experimentalmadness:

Once again my fellow girls, the only reason we can every possibly attempt to engage in a serious psychological debate with a character of moral ambiguity, or even a male of our complete psychological opposite is because we wish to be in their pants, or cast off the shackles of these feminine chains and become them.

Obviously as a woman I am only functioning off of my emotions. I am in no way ever engaging with a character of villainy and pondering the vast recesses of how his mind might work. What ideals he might hold that actually touch upon my own. Or, dare I even think it, that I sometimes have dark thoughts myself and see myself reflected in a mirror darkly in their image. Of course, it could never be such things. As I am a woman, incapable of thoughts of darkness myself.

No, my dear ladies, we are bound by the overwhelming emotion running through our veins. Our hearts forever bleeding for the lost villainous souls. Our minds never actively humming with deep psychological thoughts for the state of the human character, the many intricacies that operate in the socipathic mind that are both times fascinating and deeply terrifying. 

We can not have thoughts. We must feel. Only ever feel. To be tormented by feelings of love and lust towards the bad boy, always seeking to blindside us with cruelty. Never for one moment realizing the exact state of a character’s mind and finding the intrigue purely for the character himself and relishing for a brief moment the acceptance of a dark side we are denied in reality. Because a woman only externals a darkness by loving the villain. She can find no real counterpart there, because she has no ability to logical and reasonably see a similarity. We do not admit our own internalized dark thoughts. Of course not. Perish the dreadful thought.

A woman is never a sadist, is she ladies? We are all masochists. Chasing after the villains hoping we see the unseen kindness that only we could ever bring out, and getting beaten all the way. Not because for one brief and terrifying moment, we wish we could run along side them, bruised, bloody, and equally terrifying ourselves.

Article Excerpt: “Sociopaths, by definition, lack compassion and remorse. Some young women in our culture, on the other hand, are overwhelmed by those very same things. Think of emotional sensitivity as a spectrum from 0-10, similar to the volume controls for a radio.  It’s healthy to be tuned into the needs of others at about 4 or 5 on the continuum.  At that volume, you’re aware of the needs of those around you without being overwhelmed by them. But for some women, the world’s “emotional noise” comes through at 8 or 9 on the spectrum. The needs and demands of others are so clear and loud that these young women often can’t hear themselves think.  They’re nearly incapacitated from the effort of absorbing so much emotion, and frequently they feel immensely guilty for not meeting the insatiable demands of those around them.  Is it any wonder that they become fascinated with — and even, in some sense, envious of — sociopaths?  What else is a sociopath than someone whose “volume control” for the needs of others has been set to mute?”

[Women, we are like emotional sponges that become deafened by the internal emotional noise pollution that we absorb]