"I am Jewish. I am not going on any KikeWalks soon. That word [kike, slut] is beyond redemption. Now, some words can be redeemed, as the ‘queer’ community has tried to redeem ‘that’ term. There are some words that within a different context can be. And that doesn’t mean all words can be redeemed.”
- Gail Dines: Pornland Conference [Part 1]
[Context: Gail Dines addressing the typical media representation of women which conveys and reinforces the concept of female sexuality being one of vulnerability that, underneath the scrutiny of the straight male gaze, is intrinsic to maintaining male power/dominance].
- Gail Dines: Pornland Conference [Part 1]
"So, here we have encoded into masculinity and femininity power-inequality."
[Context: Sociology and Women’s Studies professor Gail Dines discussing the hierarchical and dichotomous power-dynamic embedded in the construction of masculine versus feminine sexuality and perceptions of men versus women when both internalize and perform for the straight male gaze].
- Gail Dines: Pornland Conference [Part 1]
"I’m not a “sex-positive” feminist, inasmuch as that term is used to refer to the kinds of people who believe that women, by adapting themselves the piggish sexual attitudes of men and becoming complicit in their own objectification, can fuck their way to being treated like human beings. In fact, I say piss on that misleading term altogether. It’s just another guise by which women are tricked into believing that the road to equality is paved with thongs and used jimmy hats. Using your sexuality to manipulate men does not equality make, nor does it even amount to controlling your own sexual destiny, because in order to manipulate men through sex you have to fulfill their pornographic fantasies, very few of which revolve around anything but a one-dimensional and completely fictional conception of female sexuality and nearly all of which completely ignore actual female pleasure. Fulfilling male fantasies is not feminism; no matter how many times you show them your tits, they’ll still run the government and all the corporations and institutions that make sure your life revolves around obsessing over your appearance and making 75 cents on the dollar for what they make."
Nine Deuce (commentator) at Guide to Sexy Feminism (via clitulufhtagn)
(Source: rrredlipstick, via theonethatneversmiles)
[Context: Gail Dines arguing that the patriarchal construction of femininity and by extension, its construction of female sexuality has been embraced by the recent third wave of feminism as a means in which the goal of feminist activism - dismantling patriarchy/systematic male dominance - can be accomplished and that this method is counter-intuitive to what feminism’s initial ideals were and counter-productive in the process of eventually eradicating patriarchy].
- Dr. Gail Dines
[Context: Gail Dines addressing the media’s cultural construction of female sexuality in a patriarchal society and it’s impact on men’s socialized perception of women’s accessibility i.e the ‘male gaze’].
Dr. Gail Dines addressing porn culture and rape culture’s intersecting roles in patriarchy
No woman’s a slut.
Every time I see who hear the term “slut-shaming” I cringe. That noun hyphenated to that verb should be unused out of existence. Rather than enforcing the idea that they are no sluts, that slut is not an acceptable title to be used against a woman to remind her of her sexualized subordination, activists are actually maintaining the use of the word to the point that it remains culturally normalized.
Arguing the subjectivity of the use of the word completely ignores the patriarchal context in which all women live in and the fact that this word, along with other gendered, misogynistic slurs, are not something women can collectively “reclaim” considering it’s not a term that was coined by women for women, but something used initially and continually by men for their benefit and as long as patriarchy remains intact, the concept and connotation behind the slur “slut” will also remain intact.
Even if an individual refers to another woman as slut personally believing this slur can be positively re-stigmatized in a society embedded with rape culture and a misogynistic porn culture, that individualistic approach to undoing thousands of years of patriarchal oppression and the hateful weight carried by the slur is grossly unrealistic.
"Slut" is not just a referral to the double-standard that, men have sex and they are socially rewarded, women have sex and their social value diminishes. It’s also about how the slur slut relies on the use of women by men to the effect of being sexually objectified, in that, in patriarchy, women exist for straight men’s visual and sexual pleasure.
When the oppressed class starts to willingly take on the slurs of their oppressors, this action does not dismantle and destroy the views that keep the non-privileged group oppressed, it acts as a reinforcement. It’s reacted to as if women are finally realizing their place in that, we are sluts and they - men - can continue using the word as a form of hate speech, sexual harassment and sexist bullying.
Some MRA/Anti-Feminist Arguments
MRA/AF argues that if you accept chivalry, you want preferential treatment and believe you are superior. However, they also argue that if you REJECT chivalry, you are ungrateful and unrealistic.
MRA/AF point out how much physical work men have to do in industrial, heavy labor, service fields and how this is further evidence feminists or women want preferential treatment. But when feminists fight for women to have these fields open for them, they are told they can't do it anyway.
MRA/AF point out how men usually get the dangerous, combative military jobs and this goes to show how EASY women have it. But once again, when feminists fight for women to have equal opportunity in these DANGEROUS, LIFE-THREATENING fields, they are told that women should not have those options.
MRA/AF point out that men are also gender stereotyped, but fail to address that these stereotypes typically work in reinforcing their privilege/working in their favor. Usually stereotyping them as being the more competent, logical, intelligent and more powerful out of all genders and/or sexes.
MRA/AF points out that men are also idealized in media, but fail to analyze that these idealizations fit within male power fantasies of physical prowess/physical power, athleticism and having the ability to intimidate simply by using one's presence or body.
MRA/AF point out that men are also "sexualized" in media, but fail to address that this so-called sexualization usually involves them initiating sexual encounters, flaunting their virility and potency through a barrage of media that glamorizes straight male sexuality (e.g. - music videos, ads, etc) and portrays this sexuality as something that can be used to GAIN STATUS. While women who are sexually active and overt about it LOSE cultural status.
MRA/AF argue that men are more oppressed than women, while completing ignoring the fact that most countries are ran by men, most media corporations are also ran by men and most of the worlds resources are distributed and controlled by men.
MRA/AF argue that the fact the world is patriarchal is EVIDENCE of women's inherent incompetence, while simultaneously ignoring how cultural conditioning to conform to gender stereotypes would make political and corporate fields less appealing to many women and also how workplace discrimination plays a role in hindering a woman's ability to be promoted into positions of power with equal pay. They also fail to assess the issue on a historical level, ignoring how centuries of being denied access to equal education is what has made the number of female inventors, philosophers, academics, etc, far less in comparison to the number of males who had the opportunity to specialize in fields of their choice and to harness their potential.
MRA/AF argue that feminism is no longer necessary, while at the same time referring to male feminist allies with misogynistic and homophobic slurs meant to intimidate them out of their political and ideological views on gender equality. They are often called in MRA circles, "manginas" and "gender traitors." Women in general are subjected to hateful, gendered slurs even if they are not defending feminism. Our degraded status is the default setting our society has placed us at.
MRA/AF argue that feminists think all men are naturally "dogs" or hormonal, neanderthal-like brutes but when feminists try to place emphasis on using diplomacy in place of violence, and assertion over aggression, feminists are accused of trying to "feminize" men (with the stigma that encouraging compassion, empathy and constructive verbal reasoning over physical violence is a BAD THING!!).